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There have been moments when we are
in it and we don’t see that we are in it. Moments where we are
struggling and blind to it. We don’t see that
we are struggling…thus the struggle. In these moments we
are like the little wind up toy that hits the wall, again and
again…struggle. And then there is a brief moment of clarity where we
realize that we are making it a struggle. We made the struggle.
Sometimes this is hard to face…that we made it this way. However, when
we face it and see that in order for this to be true, we could also
make its opposite. We could make it easy.
So how could we make it easy? The
answer is so simple it makes me laugh. The answer is to just ask
yourself the question, "How could this be easy?" Then dare to
actually answer that question. Remember that
whatever we focus on expands, so in applying this truth to life, all
we have to do is literally focus on what we want and how it could be
easy. Some say it sounds too simple to be true or they say,
"if it were that simple, then why doesn’t every one do it?" Of course
this is exactly why those same people struggle, because they are
focusing on how it is difficult. Not only are they focusing on how it
is difficult, but they also BELIEVE it is difficult. Time for another
universal truth. Whatever you believe, you
are right. A famous quote goes as follows. "No matter
whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right." So be
conscious of what you believe.
A great exercise is to ask yourself
the following question. "So what would a person have to believe in
order to see a challenge as easy?" Sometimes it is a lot easier to do
if you take yourself out of it and think in general terms or about
another person.
DISSOLVING THE EMOTIONAL
STATE OF OVERWHELM
Asking yourself the question
"How could it be easy?" is a great
way to dissolve the emotional state of overwhelm. It is amazing to me
how asking this question while in a state of overwhelm will quickly
give me peace. That’s right . . . peace. When life is easy, we are at
peace. Because overwhelm is the opposite of peace. Remember that in
everything and every moment is contained its opposite.
So when you are overwhelmed and scared and
afraid or anxious, realize that the opposite to whatever you are
feeling is just millimeters away. It’s right there. You can
choose it or not. It’s your decision. It’s always your decision. So
what do you choose; peace or overwhelm?
This is because people in overwhelm
are asking themselves "How could this be difficult?" and they are
working hard at answering it and then behaving accordingly.
Don’t worry. If when you ask this
great question to yourself "How could this be easy?" and at first you
resist or cannot see how it is easy, don’t worry. It’s ok and this is
very normal at first.
FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE
IT
Have you ever heard the phrase "fake
it until you make it?" I have heard this many times over the years but
didn’t realize the meaning until I began to apply it to my emotional
state. This may sound simple (because it is), and it is literally the
way the phrase sounds. You fake it until you
make it, or another way to describe it is to
pretend you are an actor and your role is to
act out the emotional state you desire. Example: You feel
overwhelmed and you catch yourself in the moment. You have a moment of
conscious clarity and realize to yourself, "hey, I’m in a state of
overwhelm right now." Then ask yourself "How do I wish to feel?" and
choose an empowering emotional state that would serve you right now
and focus on it. Let’s say, for example, you would rather feel
certain. That certainty would really serve you right now and is how
you want to feel. So the next step is to ask yourself, how would I be
if I were certain right now? How would I talk, how would I move, how
would I speak, how would I behave in my business, how would I make
decisions, how would I communicate with others when I am feeling
certain, when I AM certain? Focus on the answers to these questions.
Next, get it into your body.
Actually do the physical state of certainty with your body. Sit the
way you would sit if you were certain. Breath the way you would breath
when certain. Put your body in the posture you would be in when you
are certain. Get up and walk the way you walk when you are certain.
Here is one way that I use "fake it
until I make it," and it totally works, instantly!! I use this one
when I am driving in my car and I am feeling any kind of negative or
disempowering emotions like anxious, fearful, doubtful, unconfident,
or judgmental, etc..
First I catch myself and realize it
is happening, that I am feeling a disempowering emotion. Next I adjust
my car seat back by tilting it all the way forward so that I am
sitting as erect and upright as possible. It feels a little awkward at
first. Then I put a huge, ridiculous grin on my face and look upward.
At first my brain is saying "baloney, you are upset remember?" but
since I know this method works for me I persist and keep going. Then
when I feel myself smiling and I want to increase the feeling more, I
look at myself in the mirror and then see if I can make my face smile
even bigger. By the way, just the act of seeing yourself smiling in
the mirror will automatically make you smile even more. It usually
only takes about a minute and I am feeling great. REALLY actually
feeling great, feeling happy and at peace. And if you want to really
hit the ball out of the park, when you are at your peak state and
starting to feel better, turn to another car next to you and shoot
them a HUGE GRINNING SMILE and send them happiness and peace. It’s
really amazing when I do this to people in other cars next to me. At
first they are uncomfortable and they may frown, as if to say, "who
is this strange guy and why is he smiling at me so big?". And I keep
smiling or even increase the smile even more. It is impossible for
them to continue to look at you without them smiling too. And the
longer they look at you smiling, the more they will smile. And now I
am affecting them and making them feel good too, which makes me feel
even better. Some may say this sounds weird, but I do what works and
this is just one way that works for me to fake it until I make it.
Another
famous quote goes "Be that which you wish to attract into your life."
QUESTION: How could it be
easy?
ANSWER: By focusing on how it
could be easy?
RESULT: You attract ease and
peace into your life. |
