Dear friends and clients,
This week let's look at Strategy 11 and 12 from my upcoming book "Wake up, Jump into your life." 

Wake up, Jump into Your Life - A Journey into Self Observation

By Steve Lentini
 

 Twenty Strategies for a Life of Joy, Satisfaction and Success

So let's take a look at Strategy Eleven and Twelve this week.

Strategy 11 - Detachment.

Detach from all outcomes in life. Release what you cannot control. Being attached to outcomes means you have what I call the "General Manager of the Universe" syndrome. Do you recognize this trait in yourself? Here are the symptoms: 

1. Upset in traffic jams.
2. Upset that the line in the supermarket or any store in moving to slow.
3. The guy/gal in the car in front of you drives like a jerk.
4. Your boss is an idiot.
5. Your fellow employees just don't work as hard as you.
6. How could that guy/gal get promoted and not you?
7. You weren't lucky when it came to parents.
8. Why don't I own this company anyway?
9. Depression over either the red or blue states after the election.
10. Depression over the lost customer.
11. Depression over the "big sale you just lost."
12. Depressed over the state of affairs in the world or that no one see things "your way."

 These are just some of the symptoms, that you have put yourself in charge of the Universe.

 Get off it. Relax your grip. What or who is the only thing you can control. You, of course.

 Ask yourself in any situation "what is my role in this and how can I make a difference now?" Then take action on what you can control. Let go of the rest.

You will be happier and you'll have new energy. All of the energy that you wasted on things and people that you cannot control anyway will be available for you to create a new future for yourself. Who better?

Stop gossiping, look in the mirror. Stop worrying, did worrying ever change anything? Forget how you want things to work out or how you want others to behave, and enjoy the ride. Observe with wonder what happens when you let go. Fix what is yours to fix and forget the rest. Detach from outcomes and not from life. 

Think of the serenity prayer;
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference.

Notice it says that knowing the difference is WISDOM, probably just a coincidence.

Strategy 12 - What you focus on expands, discipline your thinking.

Disciplined and focused thinking gets us what we want, what you focus on expands. If you believe every one of your thoughts that you have throughout the day, surely you have a jumbled up life.  

Learning how to discipline your thoughts is like exercise. Muscles come from the discipline of exercise. Can you go to the gym once a month or once a quarter and expect a chiseled body?

The same theory applies to our deepest desires. Once, when I took my children and their grandparents to Disney, we stopped in one of the gift stores. My kids grandfather told them to pick out one thing and he would buy it for them, "whatever one you want" he said. Paul and Lisa had something picked out after a few minutes, Beth, on the other hand, had difficulty making up her mind. After 30 minutes of "Beth, how about this?" and she would say "no," her grandfather was perturbed and said in a louder voice, "BETH, Can't you just make up your mind?" Now we were all "helping." "How about this," came from me, her mother and her grandmother as well. Soon Beth was crying and we all left and Beth did not get what she wanted.

Are you like Beth when she was six? Overwhelmed with thoughts that go in all different directions? Do you feel overwhelmed with all the choices? Can't make your mind up?

Beth's grandfather wanted to give her something and because she could not make up her mind, she got nothing. Her grandfather still wanted to give her something, but how could he?

The Universe works in much the same way. The Universe is conspiring to give you what you want. If your thinking is scattered, negative and then positive or focused on one thing and then something else, how can the Universe work on your behalf? If you are like Beth, the Universe is left just as bewildered as her grandfather was. Wanting to give you something and unable to because you are not able to make up your mind. 

Get clear about what you want, start with the end in mind, picture it and stick to it no matter what. Start saying "when I get my promotion or when I get my new house" or  add whatever it is you want to "when I". Picture what you want daily. Spend time visualizing what you want. If you cannot get quiet enough to visualize, create an image book. An image book is simply a book of pictures of all the events or things that you want in your life and you look at it daily. When you notice negative thoughts, such as "you don't deserve that" or any thoughts that have the words "you'll never" attached to them, push them out. Like exercise, expect that this is a daily routine or at least four or five times per week until it becomes habit. If the picture of Beth comes up, get back to thinking clearly of only what you want. 

Remember what you focus on expands, this has been so since you were born and if you think about it you will know it's true. You are the product of your thoughts up until now.  

Ask this question of your friends, "what do you really want in your life in the next few years?" Listen to their answer. You will be amazed at how many people cannot give you a clear answer.

If I called you tomorrow and said I'll give you what you want, could I?

Be well,

Steve

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