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Nothing worthwhile in life is
gained by avoiding what is uncomfortable initially
I meet and work with business and sales people who are not
hitting their goals. They are missing the mark. I also work
with business and sales people who are exceeding their goals.
The major difference between these two groups of people is
that one group is consistently facing what is uncomfortable
and staying with it no matter what, while the other is running
towards comfort or avoiding what's uncomfortable.
Can you guess which group is the group consistently hitting
or exceeding their goals?
Comfort is what keeps us stuck. We are doing the same old
things or reverting back to the same old things and yet
expecting new results. Fear of facing what is uncomfortable is
actually the ideal indicator to use for success. When you are
afraid of a person, situation or wondering what new action to
take, take the uncomfortable path. I think of FEAR as
follows: Facing "Enormous" Adversity Realistically/Responsibly*
*(responsibly if our personal safety is at stake)
Fear is usually "enormous" in our own mind. I put the
quotes around enormous because usually we discover once we
have gotten on the other side of whatever we feared, it was
not such a big deal. I use realistically/responsibly for the
purpose of personal safety. If we fear for our safety in any
situation then responsibility comes into play... realistically
if we have made the fear "enormous" in our mind. Face it and
move through the uncomfortable part.
People that I encounter that are stuck and missing the mark
are usually not facing the fact that somewhere they stopped
the behaviors that made them a success in the past. Much like
going to the gym, initially it is uncomfortable. After a while
it is like second nature. If we stop, then starting again is
uncomfortable. The same rules apply to our business, sales and
even personal success. We must get back to the behaviors that
"hurt" a little initially. We must face the fear. Move towards
what is uncomfortable. The same rule applies to our
relationships. Face the uncomfortable. We cannot remain stuck
in the same old reactions to life. We must face the cold hard
facts about who we think we are. We must get beyond all of the
things that our brain tells us, "this is how you are"... Use
what feels uncomfortable and what you fear as a guide and move
into those behaviors. Do it.
Nothing worthwhile in life is gained by avoiding what is
uncomfortable initially. Nothing. Imagine going to the gym,
expecting a new, fit, trim body and just sitting at the juice
bar watching all the exercising going on. How would you get
the expected result?
Get off the stool, push away from the juice bar and move
into the uncomfortable routine. In a very short while you will
find that you can do far more than you even thought was
possible.
You will expand what you thought you were capable of and
then a new horizon will be created. Again and again as you
grow, you will have to face more new fears about going even
further. You can use fear of what is uncomfortable as the
guide to continue to take you to behaviors and results that
you could not imagine previously. You can even use imagination
as the tool to start with first. Just imagine yourself doing
the uncomfortable, see yourself going beyond where you have
ever gone before and feel what it would feel like to achieve
this new level of success. Just make sure that you actually
start the behavior otherwise it's like sitting on the stool at
the juice bar again.
You can do it. Stop complaining about how things aren't
working and get moving towards what your brain says you cannot
do. Move into what is uncomfortable. You can expand far beyond
where ever you see the world as flat. (see "Pushing
beyond the Edge" newsletter)
You were born to create. Get uncomfortable and see what is
possible.
Remember what avoiding what is uncomfortable will get
you... nothing worthwhile... unless that is what you want.
Regards,
Steve
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